Couple in China get married at 94 after being apart for 70 years

It is a love story spanning seven decades.

Xu Guizhen and Cao Zhenwei were both born in 1926 and have known each other since they were 16. After nearly 70 years apart, they have finally reunited and, at the age of 94, got married two years ago.

Their story, including accounts of their life in a nursing home, have gone viral, touching the hearts of many Chinese netizens.

Xu’s and Cao’s fathers were very close friends and operated a photo studio together in Weihai, Shandong province. In 1937, during the war against the Japanese, they moved to Shanghai.

The young couple met at the photo studio in Shanghai. Xu’s father liked Cao very much and hoped that the young man would marry his daughter. But Cao was already engaged then. The two ended up living separate lives and having their own families.

Cao worked at the photo studio with Xu’s younger brother. Cao says Xu moved back to Shanghai after she got married, but not long afterward, they parted for the last time, as she ended up moving several times.

In 2019, Cao, then 93, met Xu’s younger brother at a reunion and asked him about his sister. Encouraged by the brother, Cao called Xu and they were finally reunited.

“When I received the phone call, I knew it was him as soon as I heard his voice. I planned to meet him at the subway, but I was worried that I wouldn’t recognize him because I hadn’t seen him for years,” Xu recalls.

“But he was very smart. He went to the neighborhood committee first and asked them to call me. When I walked out, I saw him,” Xu says, adding that they reminisced about the past and had dinner together. After that, they kept in touch by phone.

Very soon after, the couple decided to spend the rest of their lives together and registered for marriage in 2020.

“Although we hadn’t seen each other for nearly 70 years, we still felt very familiar with each other. We are all lonely and want to find a partner. This is fate, which is unexpected,” says Cao.

After getting married in September 2020, they moved into Fortune Care Shanghai Kangtai Nursing Home, where they share a 30 sq m room. According to Xu, the nursing home arranged wedding decorations to welcome them.

Xu notes that her daughter was worried about her living alone, so she decided to move into a nursing home. After Xu told Cao that she was moving, he decided to go with her.

“The nursing home also sent out wedding candies for us. It is our home now, and we also don’t want to bother our children. We can take care of each other here,” she adds.

Their life in the nursing home is very fulfilling. They wake up at 6am and have breakfast before watching TV or doing taiji at 8am. After that, they exercise their joints and fingers, or sing songs for an hour before lunch, and then have a rest. After some activitives in the afternoon, they have dinner at 4.30pm and get ready for bed.

“We get along very well. After living here for more than two years, we have got used to it and adapted to the environment. When the weather is good, we go downstairs to do taiji or take a walk, and we watch TV. In the nursing home, we are like one big family,” Xu says.

“Our children are very supportive of our marriage. This is our own business, but they all think it’s a good thing,” Cao says.

Xu adds: “Ours is not like young people’s love. We never say ‘I love you’, but when we are together, we take care of each other.”

 

SOURCE: NEWS AGENCIES